Help Required…

So, I’m not good at asking for help. Being the independent type, the strong one (love those labels!) But, I’m not good. At all. I’m good at pretending I’m good. Sometimes, it’s genuine, most of the time it’s not.

I’ve been in a funk. An emotional funk. For too long. I want out.

I don’t know how to get out of it.

I play dress ups and try new styles and combinations. In a funk.

I go to the library, borrow books and scary DVDs to remove myself from my reality. Funk still there.

I’ve consumed myself with wellness and researching wellness and cooking. Funked.

I surround myself with beautiful souls and I’m usually ok when I’m with them. Afterwards, funk of all funks.

I’ve chopped off my long dark hair. Still in a funk.

I have no income at the moment (not helping the funk!) and I do not like what I see in the mirror. I don’t like me. Hence the lack of posts.

What do you do to pull yourself out of an emotional funk?

Love Nora xxx
The single, unemployed Mumma, with nothing on the horizon. Thank eff for my children!

My hairs… See how good I am at pretending to be ok?

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22 thoughts on “Help Required…

  1. Oh, honeypie. So sad to read this.

    I feel you. I know the funk. And sometimes it is so damned hard to climb up and out of that dark space.

    Keep those beloved people close and let them help you when they offer. Get on Minty when you can, breathe in that fresh air.

    And when all else fails, get yourself to the doc to talk about Plan B. Make sure you know all of your options. Personally, I need a combination of drrrrugs and therapy and I always, ALWAYS do better mentally when I am active physically.

    You’re doing so well to keep head above water, to be healthy and active. Sometimes that’s not enough though so go gently, lean on your family and talk to health professionals you trust.

    Lots of love.

    xx

  2. Funks are not funky. I hate that you feel this way – I understand that you project an outward appearance of confidence and strength, but in all honesty I think this is because that is inside you, it is essentially who you are even though you’re not connecting to it at the moment.

    You’ve been through so much, throughout which you have maintained your dignity like no other. You’re a rare species, don’t under estimate how good you make people feel – it’s a valuable and rare commodity, I can very definitely say that every time I have interacted with you I have come away feeling happier, better or wiser. That is gold.

    Don’t you doubt yourself because I have NO doubts about your sincerity, individuality, confidence, maturity, self assuredness, ability and compassion with everything you do.

    Oh and I super LOVE you hair!!

    Love your guts.

  3. You know what is great for you.. Is that you’re trying, you keeping on keeping on and that is your strength sweet lady. You’re doing things to try and lift yourself up, keep doing that xxxxx

  4. I’m feeling exactly the same. I’ve been doing well for so long but it seems I’ve taken a few steps backwards. Single, mother, lonely, starting full time work next week which means longs days of day care for my 2 year old…..its all getting me down. I’m also not sure how to pull myself out of it.

    • I’m sorry you’re feeling the funk to Erin. You’re one up on me, you’ve got a job (I know how scary full time would be though, so it’s an added worry!)
      Where is that magic potion to make the funk disappear? And that silver lining…. Hugs to you xx

      • I’m amazed you don’t like what you see in the mirror. You are gorgeous and stylish!! You would be the envy of many. Hope things improve soon.

  5. Hi Nora,

    We don’t know each other. I just thought I would reach out after seeing The Little Mumma’s post that a mate of hers had the blues.
    As apprehensive as I am about writing to you; cause…. well….a strangers advise can be rather patronising, I thought I would give it a shot to say a few words.
    The usual thing is to say,
    “Hey you got so much going of you”
    “You’re so smart, funny, beautiful”
    “Things will turn around”
    “You’ll meet someone when you’re not looking”
    etc
    etc.
    The best I got to offer is that you gotta take the gloves off and fight bare knuckled and take no fucken prisoners….none. Bite down hard mate and just get through to the other side where you’ll remember that you are in fact: a mushroom-cloud-laying, arse kicking legend. Always have been, always will.

    With Respect,
    Chris.

  6. Okay… This is the first time I have read your work… I read Angie’s all the time and if you’re a friend of hers then you must be a great person. I write lists. List of what I want to achieve, Set goals. But I am very specific. Things like I am now ready to live a healthy life. I am now ready for abundance to come into our lives. I am very thankful for all we have, I am very thankful for all we will receive. that sort of thing. I would be happy to offer some personal coaching if you’re up for it.. I would say you need to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. I am also assuming that you aren’t suffering PND or anything like that. Check your Iron, Vitamin D & B levels, because simply taking those can help lift the fog of baby brain. Let me know what you think. xx Kate

  7. Hi Nora, I’m sorry to hear that you are struggling. Believe me I know that deep dark place. I have been through so much in the past 6 years and it has been one very dark path. I’m not sure if I can help, but every time I want to throw it all in I look at my two little girls and see their smiles and it makes me want to fight harder to live another day. I don’t have family around me so I have had to go this fight alone. I guess all we can do is take one day at a time, never be scared to ask anyone for help. You are not alone in how you feel. Have faith that one day you will wake up and feel at peace. Sending hugs ♥

  8. You’ve been through a big change, so I can understand why you would be feeling in a funk 😦 Any work on the horizon this year?

    I would suggest going to talk to your GP to have someone on your side and to get some help. You’ve got my email address if you want to chat – I’m here to listen xx

  9. Hi I too am a friend of Angie and saw her call to help. When I read you post I felt compelled to say something. I hope it helps. Well honey you are gorgeous…obviously in spirit and well as physically. You have to believe this!! To really get yourself out of your funk you have to BELIEVE IT!! It is up to you to like yourself…more importantly…god damn LOVE every inch of your being. Your mind is consumed by negative thoughts and you are drowning in them. How do you stop that…by not listening to your negative thoughts…they are lies!! Look at your children…you love them unconditionally…now do the same to yourself. Every time you notice that crap repeating itself in your head say STOP!! To start, just noticing your thought patterns will bring a small change…then you can work to stop them…and with that you will unlocked the door to freedom and inner peace. You can do it. Accepting where you are at, and gratitude for what you have, help. Meditation and yoga are a start too. You have been so courageous to ask for help. Lean of those who offer assistance. However, the truth is that the answers you seek lie within…they cannot be found externally. When you can quiet the mind you will find yourself. You are a beautiful being…you can do it. All the best. Cate
    BTW single mum as well.

  10. Beautiful lady!

    Be kind to yourself, take it a step at a time, and hold on to the faith that it WILL get better! You are stronger than you think and you will get out of this funk. Everyone has left such lovely messages and given some great suggestions, so I hope you feel better soon! xxx

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